As we get older we lose the things that really make us happy in life. Do you remember what used to make you smile as a child? Unfortunately, there are also things that can make us feel sad during out childhood. Bullies can’t be avoided, but the key is to teach children best coping strategies to avoid such situations. Address bullies by using several strategies: 1. No one likes to be bullied – Teach kids to report bullying and not to talk about it. 2. Block the bully or avoid him or her – Teach children to avoid the bully. Tell an adult if someone says something to them that makes them feel threatened. 3. Tell an adult – If you feel threatened tell a parent or teacher. 4. Assume they are not the one – Be aware and use techniques to avoid any confusion. 5. Protect others – Instead of just talking to children about bullying, make it a part of your daily life. Who is the teacher? What is your Working Style -automated and quiet? loud and verbally abusive? What is the school and community format? What students have to do with the bully? Organization and Safe Tranmission – Relate all problems to a safe reception. Tips for helping children dealing with bullies 1. Changes of rules – students should learn some process to take when they get bullied, such as, “Stop talking over me.” The student should explain what it does, and then perform the process. (Take a topic out of his or her mouth and be quite until the subject is over) 2. Stop retaliation – ask the bully how he or she would feel if they started to get bullied. Then offer to stop the retaliation and watch out for the bully. (The bully needs an adult to manage the consequences and, hopefully, will be sufficiently punished. If not, the student should sit alone and listen to his or her thoughts. Adults are often more likely to handle shift collisions well.) The goal is to return the bully to the role of the victim. 3. Talk out new problem – When bullying is the problem, the student should ask. Despite being told, the bully should talk about the problem and then talk about the surroundings. The student should then be told that his or her behavior was not acceptable. 4.Ask about yourself in the bully – Ask the bully about their feelings and take them seriously. Ask questions about who they are and take the time to empathize. 5. Stand up for yourself – Be stronger, not weaker. Ask the bully what he or she can do to take care of themselves. 6. Be alert for possible bullies – Some children will look for bullies to instigate. Don’t take it personally. Be the adult. Bullying takes a toll on children and most still respond to it. Research shows that bullies often have problems in their own families as well as being bullied. Teenagers will attend diminished levels of school and stay away from their friends. Teenagers do not understand the consequences of the behavior, and often times will retaliate by bullying other people. Bullying becomes a political issue on school issues. Teens can take a group activity away from other teens for bullying purposes. Teens tend to take their anger out on their peers, either physically or verbally. Teens are more likely to end up in prison and/or dead from suicide. Some adolescents are Batman under the covers and others are themselves-in other words, they tend to become adults thinking it is just their personal stage.